How do you know that teen child is troubled?
As young people mature to adults, they usually undergo many changes which may be overwhelming to them especially if not given the moral support necessary to see them through their teenage. It is never easy to parent a teenager because of the many influences that such a child may be experiencing in his/her life. Mind you, many teenagers will seek to hide their experiences to the parent or those surrounding them and continue living in isolation as they seek solutions for themselves.
Worse still, today we live in a pervert society whereby the degradation of the society have left many people especially teenagers, who doesn’t have much clue about life, exposed to reckless behavior such as drug abuse, exposure to pornography & immoral sexual behaviors, abuse of alcohol, smoking etc.
The influence can be so strong that they fall for them and thus get engaged in such behaviors. This can be stressing to the parents as they seek answers about what could be affecting their children. Theirs is thus the need to be and understand what is going on, before you come lashing and reprimanding your son for sneaking out at night.
One thing that you need to note as a parent is that during the adolescent stage, a child will seek to assert some sense of independence. As much as your child may have been obedient all along in their lives, he/she may start acting strange and very unpredictable as he/she seeks to find his/her own identity.
Such a child may become easily irritable if you try to assert your position as a parent and to instruct him to do what you feel is right and in such instances, a rift between you and your child may start developing. This is a situation that you wouldn’t want to be involved in.
There is Need to Understand a Young Adults
You need to understand that a teen’s brain is usually much active and processes more information than an adult as he/she seeks more answers about life and the many aspects that confront them. You need to reason with such a child in a friendlier manner; more like of a friend than a parent. Be with them during this stage and help them realize that they shouldn’t give in to the pressure surrounding them.
By this I mean that you need to also talk to them as if you are in their shoes. Reasons with them that they can have a girlfriend but engaging in irresponsible sexual behaviors or in drugs can ruin their future lives. You will have to offer a more plausible solution to your child – one which they can relate with and keep them from engaging in irresponsible behavior.
Take a holiday with them and have some time to talk about their lives at that stage. This will make them feel loved and part of the family. Let them understand that you love them and will always be with them, but they too need to live a responsible live. It is of paramount that you don’t try to sever ties that they have with their friends in the thoughts that their friends are misleading them. This can be countered and ruin the good relationship that you have always had with your child.
If need be, there advice of a professional counselor or psychologist can be enlisted. These professionals can help bring the kid back to reality and help them through what they are facing especially if their child is ready to confide to them.
Learn how to Deal with Rebellious Teens
Teens can be very rebellious towards what you what them to do and the life that you are choosing for them. They may feel as if they are adult enough and even snub at you or slam the door at you. The best approach here is for you not to lash at them with anger because of their demeanor behavior.
You will need to learn how to create healthy lifestyle changes for your teen which can help them connect with you again. Foremost, never try talking to your child when you are angry yourself. This may ruin your conversation and make them more rebellious.
You need to be sensible enough to establish the best approach to start a conversation. You need to find better ways of convincing you teen to open up about what they are experiencing. This can be achieved according to the relationship that you have had previously. How healthy was your relationship with your child since he/she was young. Were they ever honest to you? If yes, chances are even though they are rebellious they might be willing to open up.
When such an opportunity comes, listen to your child carefully without becoming judgmental or making them feel bad at something they did. Listen first and then be tactical in finding a common ground. Mind you, your advice may be rejected, but keep calm. If one solution doesn’t sit well with your child, find a better alternative. By doing so, you will be making them feel independent and loved and there are high chances of them accepting your advice.